It is my personal experience that there has been no surprises in the person I married because we were best of friends for about 7years before we started courting,marriage to her therefore has not yielded surprises to me in any way. For you to be finding out the real nature of your lover in marriage, it must be that extensive time was not devoted to the friendship. I have often heard people say that you can never know the true colors of a person until you marry them,but I beg to disagree. Conversely, even if you did not have a prophetic apparition and you settled for your best friend, you are most likely to be successful in love. It is my opinion that a divinely hand picked lover will fail to deliver, if friendship is not in place. Many often place spiritual guidance in love over established friendships. It takes time for authentic friendships to develop: Overtime you would have heard me say that great marriages grow on the soil of great friendships.
When it comes to love, it is better to be late than to be sorry. No matter how persuasive such crash lovers are, we must not be coerced into rushing into any love scenario without taking adequate time to confirm the accuracy of our choice. It is not uncommon to see a person who met you yesterday, asks you out today and wants to marry you tomorrow. This is why love must be patient and not urgent. Those who do so are often scarred permanently by the inaccuracy of the love choices made. The truth however is that the process of love can not be hurried. Fast food, fast cars, and unfortunately some believe in fast love. We live in a generation that admires fast things.
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